Acknowledgements
To my brother Chris Reimer, my first best friend and anchor in the world. I love you here and beyond.
Grateful thanks are due to the following individuals and organizations, without whom this project would not have been actualized. It takes a community!
Residency: Banff Centre for the Arts provided me with a scholarship to attend the 2013 Interventions Writing Residency, which gave me the time and space to start to think about transmuting my love and grief for Chris into this project. Danielle LaFrance and Simon Brown in particular were friends and comrades there -- love and solidarity! Thanks to Amy Letter for asking for my essay for The Rumpus.
Poetry: Some of these poems were workshopped in L.A. Warman's Death workshop in early 2020. Fred Wah looked at early versions of them in 2013. Jonathon Wilcke is first reader.
Grant help: GRIEFWAVE followed me around in body and spirit for ten years, and it never occurred to me that I dare ask for help with its completion till Vivek Shraya suggested I apply for a grant. Duh! Yes! Of course! Thank you! Sincere gratitude to Marcello Di Cintio, Heather Clitheroe, and Carrie Cutforth for assistance in conceptualizing and refining my grant proposal. Thank you to the Canada Council for funding this project.
Technical: Gloria Leung suggested the Webflow platform. Rebecca Faria suggested resources for media transcription. Callen Law transcribed most of the media files. All audio mastered by Rena Kozak / SoundPony Audio.
Patrons: Thank you to Missy Clarkson, Helen Braund, Rena Kozak / Child Actress, Angela Rawlings, Silvana Campus, Adam Shanley, Lourdes Juan, Amy LeBlanc, Andrea Actis, Allison Moore and Todd Nickel.
Special thanks to testers: Silvana Campus; Adam Shanley (and for steady encouragement and support throughout the life of this project) and Helen Braund for a careful read and site check.
The work of mourning in/through art: Sharon Stevens and the Equinox Vigil.
The First Rule of Grief Club: is by Alex Leslie
Getting shit done: Work Zone friends: Jeremy Stewart, Ginger Rodgers, Meagan Black. Dusty Chipura and the ADHD Creators Crew.
Publicity: Thanks to Arielle Hudnell and ZG Stories.
Thanks to Rena Kozak for being my spiritual sister.
Thanks to my parents Tim and Jo Reimer for their unwavering support.
Thanks to my partner Jonathon Wilcke.
The receipt of my Canada Council funding and impetus to complete the project coincided with a period of extreme upheaval in my life, and I am eternally indebted to material and moral support from Ginger Rodgers, Chelsea LaBossiere, and Allison Moore during this challenging time.
Credits and sources
Home page
James Cullen made the wave recording for me at his home in Halfmoon Bay, BC.
[every edit a distortion]
rupture robot
Sound created and recorded in Banff, Alberta in February 2013: wind, snow, Board Weevil, cemetery gates.
elegy for collective subjectivity
Sound created and recorded in Banff, Alberta in February 2013: synthesizer, cemetery gates, coffee pot shaker.
Underwater Ambience 2 SFX licensed through Epidemic Sound.
the road to Mexico
Ambient sound recording in the Old Banff Cemetery, February 2013.
Rabbit illustration: artist unknown. Trusset, Jules. Nouveau dictionnaire encyclopédique universel illustré. Paris: La Librairie Illustrée, 1885-1891. https://www.oldbookillustrations.com/illustrations/helamys/.
elegy for oscilloscope
A poem that you may or may not wish to sing to the tune of the Animal Collective song “Kids on Holiday"
Schematics drawing/instructions found in the notebooks of Chris Reimer.
Stock falcon photo.
Drumsticks on the floor of my room at the Banff Centre, Korg Monotron, 2013.
Egg Shaker Rhythm by Ainigmat on freesound.org
Clang 1 by editor_adp on freesound.org
they could have been right all along
Ghost by Kiarra Albina.
my, what a swift coffin
Photograph of rusted farm implements at the abandoned site of our grandfather John Reimer's farm outside of New Dayton, AB by Chris Reimer, 2009.
Rabbit illustration artist unknown. Trusset, Jules. Nouveau dictionnaire encyclopédique universel illustré. Paris: La Librairie Illustrée, 1885-1891. https://www.oldbookillustrations.com/illustrations/helamys/.
Floating text at right from my essay "Evil in my Pocket," from Locations of Grief (Wolsak & Wynn, 2020).
elegy for turntable
Sepia collage of our grandmother's father by Chris Reimer.
Ocean wave recording by James Cullen.
drive to Mexico
Guitar by Chris Reimer.
Rabbit illustration artist unknown. Trusset, Jules. Nouveau dictionnaire encyclopédique universel illustré. Paris: La Librairie Illustrée, 1885-1891. https://www.oldbookillustrations.com/illustrations/helamys/.
grief atoll / piece for death by dreaming
elegy for Tumblr
elegy for thoracic cage
elegy for mobile map
"Smooth popular" and "tournament/health" written by Chris Reimer; "abattoir/displacement" and "tender tender" written by Nikki Reimer.
elegy for pedal theft
elegy for 2012
elegy for narcissistic transference
my ten years of grieving
Can of Lucky in the snow by Chris Reimer
grief advice
Some of the 'advice' is written or rewritten by me.
To be finite, then, is not to be oriented toward one’s end but to
postpone that end—to send oneself beyond oneself in order to remain. - Martin Hagglund.
Oh alas for the brother taken from me,
oh alas the shining light of a brother lost,
with you our whole house is buried together,
with you all our joys perish in one, - Catullus
To express loss on that level is to cross a boundary, to violate personal space, to impose emotion in a nonemotional place - Cheryl Strayed
We are made out of stardust. The iron in the hemoglobin molecules in the blood in your right hand came from a star that blew up 8 billion years ago. The iron in your left hand came from another star. We are the laws of chemistry and physics as they have played out here on Earth and we are now learning that planets are as common as stars. Most stars, as it turns out now, will have planets. - Dr. Jill Tarter
…when a person dies he only appears to die. He is still very much alive in the past, present, and future, always have existed, always will exist. - Kurt Vonnegut, from Slaughterhouse-Five
When we are stricken and cannot bear our lives any longer, then a tree has something to say to us: Be still! Be still! Look at me! Life is not easy, life is not difficult. Those are childish thoughts… . Home is neither here nor there. Home is within you, or home is nowhere at all. - Herman Hesse, via The Marginalian
However, we have not only lost a sibling, we have lost the future we thought we were going to have. - Heidi Horsley
O you/were the best of all my days - Frank O'Hara, "Animals"
They may have gone to the ground or the sea or the sky, but a part of the spirit remains, always. Death is just a portal to the next room - This was passed around Facebook in 2012 or 2013 and I can't find the reference. Let me know if you know where this is from.
When something becomes ash,
there’s nothing you can do to turn it back.
About this, even diamonds do not lie. - Dean Young, "Elegy on Toy Piano"
elegy for wolf like me
Wolf illustration by Ernest Griset. Æsop, Rundell, Joseph Benjamin. Æsop's fables (Griset). London, New York: Cassell Petter and Galpin, n.d. [1869?]. https://www.oldbookillustrations.com/illustrations/wolf-mastiff/
elegy for shared alleles
Train footage taken between Toronto and Kingston, October 2019.
Old Simple 2 by Chris Reimer from Hello People.
Hawk photo by mana5280 on Unsplash
Plane departing footage from yyc, November 2019.
Cartoon guy (cat?) drawing by Chris Reimer.
i can't think in this heat
Photos of the parrots of Telegraph Hill by Alan Levine / cogdogblog
elegy for childhood
Ambient bird sound from Kelowna, BC, summer 2012
Ferry footage taken in the Kootenays during forest fire season.
The bear is my childhood teddy, the rabbit is his.
elegy for childhood
Photography of a downtown hotel or boarding house by Chris Reimer.
Lens flare photo of tree taken in Banff, AB, February 2013.
More guitar! is a scan from Chris' notebook.
elegy for my father's son
Not sure where I got the ship image.
Rabbit illustration: artist unknown. Trusset, Jules. Nouveau dictionnaire encyclopédique universel illustré. Paris: La Librairie Illustrée, 1885-1891. https://www.oldbookillustrations.com/illustrations/helamys/.
elegy for Lucky Strike
second elegy for Lucky Strike
Clang 1 by editor_adp on freesound.org
Large Wings Flapping - Foley by Tothrec2 on freesound.org
Moth photo by Clinton St. John
elegy for new media
Picture of kitchen with mug, cigarettes and lighter by Chris Reimer.
elegy for reincarnation
Hallway photograph at Secret Studios in San Francisco by Chris Reimer.
Smoking man drawing by Chris Reimer.
elegy for Korg Monotron
Notebook doodles/creatures by Chris Reimer.
elegy for apathy
Moon and whale ripped from The National Geographic
Tree rings, whorls and penis drawing by Chris Reimer
the cadence was time back and forth beating 1
Human skeleton illustrated by Charles Dessalines D' Orbigny (1806-1876). Digitally enhanced from our own 1892 edition of Dictionnaire Universel D'histoire Naturelle via rawpixel.com. Public domain Free CC0 Image.
we wake up in the charnel ground
Photograph of dead robin by Chris Reimer
Notebook doodles/creatures by Chris Reimer.
the cadence was time back and forth beating 2
Clang 1 by editor_adp on freesound.org
Large Wings Flapping - Foley by Tothrec2 on freesound.org
the cadence was time back and forth beating 3
Human skeleton illustrated by Charles Dessalines D' Orbigny (1806-1876). Digitally enhanced from our own 1892 edition of Dictionnaire Universel D'histoire Naturelle via rawpixel.com. Public domain Free CC0 Image.
the cadence was time back and forth beating 4
I'm not sure who took the Polaroid of Chris.
Falcon woodcut painting in the snapshot from my office by Lisa Brawn.
Human skeleton illustrated by Charles Dessalines D' Orbigny (1806-1876). Digitally enhanced from our own 1892 edition of Dictionnaire Universel D'histoire Naturelle via rawpixel.com. Public domain Free CC0 Image.